Common Men’s Sexual Issues

Experiencing sexual problems can be distressing for some men. Socially, men receive messages of the need to be “good at sex” and the messages include to desire sex all the time; be able to get an erection at any desired time and maintain it; and be able to ejaculate on command (not too soon, yet not take forever). These social messages are confusing and misleading. Men who experience erectile dysfunction or impotence, premature ejaculation or cumming to quickly, delayed ejaculation (difficulty with ejaculation), or simply do not have a high sex drive are left to feel inadequate, and this can challenge their sense of well being and masculinity.

There are also other issues which can also affect men’s sexual performance. Body image issues, depression, anxiety, stress, whether personal or work stress, grief and ageing can also impact on sex lives. Most men will experience some form of sexual problems /issues, or sexual dysfunction, at some point in their lives. Psychosexual or sex therapy, or sex counselling, can help you deal with issues and problems you are experiencing with your sex life.

You may find the information below on some of the different conditions men may experience useful in your search for an explanation. If you have any questions or would like to book an appointment call Dr Christopher today. Sex Life Therapy has sex therapy clinics in Collingwood and Frankston. We also provide Skype-based sex therapy for other areas.

How Common are Common Men’s Sexual Problems?

Common Issues

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  • 1 in 4 men will experienced some from of sexual problem in 2003
  • 1 in 4 men reported a lack of interest in sex as a sexual problem
  • 14% of men reported body image concerns affected their sexual life
  • 1 in 4 men reported rapid ejaculation (or premature ejaculation)
  • 1 in 10 men reported erection issues, including erectile dysfunction
  • 1 in 10 men reported not being able to achieve orgasm, or delayed ejaculation

References
1 Richters, J., Grulich, A.E., de Visser, R.O., Smith, A.M.A., & Rissel, C.E. (2003). Sexual difficulties in a representative sample of adults. Australian & New Zealand Journal of Public Health, 27, 2, 164-170.

Erectile difficulties means that you don’t always (or never) get an erection when you feel aroused, or get an erection but it isn’t reliable and makes penetration difficult or impossible.This can be very upsetting both for you and your partner, so one of the first things I focus on in sex therapy is lowering your levels of distress and anxiety, as well as reducing any tension with your partner. Click here to learn more.
Premature ejaculation means that you don’t yet know your ‘point of inevitability’ – the signs that tell you that you are about to orgasm. As a result, you might ejaculate before penetration, or soon afterwards. Click here to learn more.
Many people only think about eating disorders and women when they think about body image. We all create images about our bodies. How we think and feel about our body can influence our self-esteem, desire, arousal and sexual performance. Genital image is part of our broader body image and can affect both men and women. Click here to learn more.
Pornography and sex addictions are common issues. Not only do men form addictions to pornography and/or sex, some women do too. Click here to learn more.
Delayed ejaculation may mean that you cannot ejaculate at all, even through masturbation. Or it may mean that you cannot ejaculate through penetration, or take what you and your partner feel to be an excessively long time. Click here to learn more.
It is not uncommon for men to have concerns about the size of their penis. We live in a society that has many cultural messages about a bigger penis is better. Men often under-estimate their own size and over estimate others size. Click here to learn more.
No matter how much they might love or desire their partner, both men and women can experience pain through intercourse.In men, arousal can be painful if the foreskin is tight and can result in painful sex. Click here to learn more.
Treatment for prostate cancer can affect your sex life. During and following treatment men may have less interest in, or desire for sex. Men also can experience erection difficulties. Click here to learn more.
Sexual identity and sexual orientation are two terms that really mean the same thing. Many people think that there are three possible identities: heterosexual (straight); homosexual (gay or lesbian); and bi-sexual. People’s sexual identity is not necessarily that clear cut. Click here to learn more.
This is probably the most common sexual difficulty, particularly among women. Loss of desire can either be partial, or total. Partial loss of desire means that you have stopped initiating sexual contact with your partner, but will sometimes respond to their approaches. Click here to learn more.
Self-esteem can impact on the way we think/feel about ourselves and others. Self-esteem can also impact on the way we interact with others, including sexually. Click here to learn more.
A sexual phobia is a fear or anxiety of some kind that impacts your ability to become aroused. The phobia can be specific, for example, you will not touch your partner’s penis or vagina. Click here to learn more.
Relationship can arise out of sexual issues, and sexual issues can result in relationship difficulties. Differences in desire, differences in choice of sexual activity can lead to issues in the relationship. Click here to learn more.
People who have survived sexual trauma sometimes experience sexual problems like an inability to reach orgasm, lack of interest in sex, vaginismus, fear of intimacy or touching. Click here to learn more.
Sex therapy can help you work out how to manage the impact of health problems or acquired disability on your sexual relationship. You might worry about either hurting your partner or getting hurt after a major operation. Click here to learn more.
Bisexuality is often misunderstood by the general population. A person who is bisexual is NOT necessarily equally attracted to men and women. People who identify s bisexual are comfortable having relationships with either gender. Click here to learn more.
Erectile difficulties means that you don’t always (or never) get an erection when you feel aroused, or get an erection but it isn’t reliable and makes penetration difficult or impossible.This can be very upsetting both for you and your partner, so one of the first things I focus on in sex therapy is lowering your levels of distress and anxiety, as well as reducing any tension with your partner. Click here to learn more.
Premature ejaculation means that you don’t yet know your ‘point of inevitability’ – the signs that tell you that you are about to orgasm. As a result, you might ejaculate before penetration, or soon afterwards. Click here to learn more.
Many people only think about eating disorders and women when they think about body image. We all create images about our bodies. How we think and feel about our body can influence our self-esteem, desire, arousal and sexual performance. Genital image is part of our broader body image and can affect both men and women. Click here to learn more.
Pornography and sex addictions are common issues. Not only do men form addictions to pornography and/or sex, some women do too. Click here to learn more.
Delayed ejaculation may mean that you cannot ejaculate at all, even through masturbation. Or it may mean that you cannot ejaculate through penetration, or take what you and your partner feel to be an excessively long time. Click here to learn more.
It is not uncommon for men to have concerns about the size of their penis. We live in a society that has many cultural messages about a bigger penis is better. Men often under-estimate their own size and over estimate others size. Click here to learn more.
No matter how much they might love or desire their partner, both men and women can experience pain through intercourse.In men, arousal can be painful if the foreskin is tight and can result in painful sex. Click here to learn more.
Treatment for prostate cancer can affect your sex life. During and following treatment men may have less interest in, or desire for sex. Men also can experience erection difficulties. Click here to learn more.
Sexual identity and sexual orientation are two terms that really mean the same thing. Many people think that there are three possible identities: heterosexual (straight); homosexual (gay or lesbian); and bi-sexual. People’s sexual identity is not necessarily that clear cut. Click here to learn more.
This is probably the most common sexual difficulty, particularly among women. Loss of desire can either be partial, or total. Partial loss of desire means that you have stopped initiating sexual contact with your partner, but will sometimes respond to their approaches. Click here to learn more.
Self-esteem can impact on the way we think/feel about ourselves and others. Self-esteem can also impact on the way we interact with others, including sexually. Click here to learn more.
A sexual phobia is a fear or anxiety of some kind that impacts your ability to become aroused. The phobia can be specific, for example, you will not touch your partner’s penis or vagina. Click here to learn more.
Relationship can arise out of sexual issues, and sexual issues can result in relationship difficulties. Differences in desire, differences in choice of sexual activity can lead to issues in the relationship. Click here to learn more.
People who have survived sexual trauma sometimes experience sexual problems like an inability to reach orgasm, lack of interest in sex, vaginismus, fear of intimacy or touching. Click here to learn more.
Sex therapy can help you work out how to manage the impact of health problems or acquired disability on your sexual relationship. You might worry about either hurting your partner or getting hurt after a major operation. Click here to learn more.
Bisexuality is often misunderstood by the general population. A person who is bisexual is NOT necessarily equally attracted to men and women. People who identify s bisexual are comfortable having relationships with either gender. Click here to learn more.
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